|Wedding Planning...is 4 months out really THAT last-minute? (edited)
||[January 5th, 2008,10:27 pm]
That wedding community is making me insecure. They act like everyone should have everything booked a year in advance. Sorry I don't work like that. This is the girl who wrote nearly all her English papers the night before they were due, and STILL got an A on every single one.
Our wedding isn't going to be massive. It isn't going to be tens of thousands of dollars. I bet the most expensive thing will be my dress (and it's not even that expensive a far as dresses go - no more than $600). Actually, photography may be more than that, but we'll see. EDIT: Okay, yeah, holy hell. Photography is DEFINITELY the most expensive thing. It'll easily be $1500+. Yikes.
I know I should've looked into venues sooner, but, well, I didn't. So now I am. Don't tell me I'm getting a late start; I already know that.
Here are my tentative plans:
That's all I can think of right now. But don't I have it pretty well planned out in my head? I have general ideas; now it's just time to find the correct people to make them into reality. And I think it's entirely possible to plan our whole wedding in 4 months.
- Ceremony location: In a church. We're looking into nearby Lutheran churches (we have about 7 to choose from). So far, the first one we called has some May dates available, but we won't know which until next week.
- Ceremony decor: Pew bows, a few white flower arrangements at/on altar. White unity candle set. No aisle runner or flower petals.
- Service: traditional Lutheran wedding service, no communion, traditional vows (with some wording tweaks).
- Officiant: chosen church's pastor.
- Ceremony music: traditional/classical pieces on piano/organ (depending on chosen church's facilities); performed by church's musician(s). No solos.
- Date: May 17th, 2008. This can change. I don't want it to, but it can if all else fails. I'm going to look at all Lutheran churches with that date open before I make a date change. Other options: May 31st, or sometime in July or later. If earlier works, I may be able to finagle that (sometime in April after Easter).
- Times: Ceremony around 2 pm, reception around 3 or 3:30 pm (after wedding party pictures).
- Wedding party: Danielle (Maid of Honor), Kristen (bridesmaid). Robert's choice for Best Man, one groomsman, and probably 2 ushers. No ringbearer or flower girls. Both our sets of parents. Grandparents, if they're able to attend. No additional speakers/readers during ceremony.
- Guest list size: Medium, 50-100 people (more will be invited). I'm really unsure as to how many people from my family will make the trip down south (from KY and IN), but I don't think there would be any more than 50 of them, probably a lot less. Robert's family is local, but much smaller.
- Invitations: Simple, classy. Printed by someone we know. Similar to the Genteel template on MS Publisher. Cream-colored with black-only ink. My mom's in charge of creating the invite list for our side; Robert needs to get with his parents about their side.
average package, nothing extravagant. Okay, we might have to splurge here. Ceremony, post-ceremony wedding party shots, and cake-cutting and champagne toast at reception. No videography (or done by Robert's coworkers).
- Rings: Channel-set round-cut diamond band in 14 ct white gold for me, simple solid metal band for Robert (he wants something sturdy).
- My attire: Strapless satin A-line gown with Silver beading on bodice, skirt, and train in white. I tried this on at David's Bridal, but I haven't gotten it yet. I have to figure out jewelry (I want to wear the pearls that Robert gave me, and I want some matching earrings), undergarments, and veil/blusher before I make the decision. It is TOTALLY my dream dress though. White strappy heels. Garter set: one to wear and one to toss.
- My flowers: large-ish bouquet of lilies/Calla lilies/some other large white flower (7-10 blooms, minimal greenery). Probably tied with green ribbons. Smaller and more compact toss-bouquet.
- Bridesmaid attire: DB chiffon strapless BM dress in Clover (both Danielle and Kristen picked this style). Probably dyed-to-match shoes. Minimal jewelry, maybe a matching necklace and earrings.
- BM flowers: smaller bouquet of whatever flower I have (3-5 blooms).
- Robert's attire, Groomsmen attire: Black tux or suit, haven't decided yet. Classic white collared shirts. Clover accents (tie, vest/cummerbund).
- Boutonnieres (all men) and corsages (mothers): something small and white with a little greenery/ribbon.
- Reception location: church facilities, if available, or hotel conference room. Dependent on ceremony location.
- Reception decor: Semi-formal. White table-linens, small centerpieces (some combination of greenery, minimal flowers, simple glass vases/bowls, water, stones, candles/tealights), no assigned seating except wedding party table. Disposable napkins/plates/silverware/champagne flutes in green, white, and/or clear.
- Reception food: Finger-food platters, hors d'oeuvres, chicken, BBQ, etc. Some possibly catered. All buffet-style and not full meal. No alcohol, except champagne toast (if allowed by venue; sparkling cider if not). Tea, soda, and punch for beverages.
- Reception music: No DJ; use MP3 playlists and rent sound system, lighting, and dance floor if needed.
- Cake: no more than 3-tiered; bottom two tiers different flavors - chocolate or red velvet and white with white or buttercream frosting. Sheet cake to supplement tiers if needed. Traditional topper. Decorated with minimal green and floral accents. Probably done by chain grocery, as the flavors/decorations are nothing unusual.
- Favors: Not sure yet, but will probably be DIY. Bubbles with green ribbon instead of rice/birdseed.
EDIT: Someone on a different wedding site pointed out some things I left out (and I remembered a few things myself).
- Hair stylist/makeup artist: Need to find one or both of these and schedule a time to try them out before the wedding. Leaning toward a half-updo with maybe some curls. Simple, fresh makeup. (I may just do this myself, as I wear little makeup to begin with. I'm not a fan of eyeliner or lipstick - I feel like I don't look like "me" with them on.)
- Transportation: Unless there's extra money in the (as yet theoretical) budget at the end, there won't be a limo for before or after the wedding. We'll probably dress at the church, if they have spaces for that, and use our own vehicles.
- Ceremony programs: Likely by the same person doing invites. Similar style and colors.
- Guest book(s) and pen(s): Definitely need at least one set. Depending on reception location, we may need two to avoid rushing the ceremony one over.
- Honeymoon: I want to go to Disney World, but we're going to have to postpone that due to financial and scheduling constraints. So, we're taking a mini-moon instead, probably the weekend after the wedding. No plans yet, but I was thinking domestic beach or somewhere in TN. We may book a hotel room for our wedding night in town.